One idea that was presented to me really stood out and I haven't been able to get it off my mind since. When working toward change, it is important to gauge a person's level of importance (how important is this change?), confidence (can I make this change?), and engagement (what steps are being taken to make a change?).
"If others can do it, do you believe you can do it?"
Maybe. I'm going to argue that without that confidence, some mountain you encounter will be just too arduous a climb. I have wrestled with this a lot lately. Sometimes your challenges seem out of your control, or too complex to address, or are too large for you to possibly have any effect. Sometimes no matter how many times you try or how many different approaches you take, things just never seem to change.
When you don't believe something can happen, it surely can't. I believe Henry Ford famously said something along the lines of:
"Whether you think you can, or think you can't, you're right."
I'd like to hope so, but if we can find ways to spark that fire within ourselves or those around us, together we can persist in overcoming our struggles. Finding that confidence can be a struggle in itself, so if you have the chance to affirm others in their journey, do so. If you believe in them, maybe they can too.
*Disclaimer: Overuse of metaphors is an effect of two weeks of intense training. I cannot be held accountable for this blog's clichés.